4 Tips for Parenting During Divorce

 Posted on May 16, 2019 in Divorce

Going through a divorce can make you feel lost in an unfamiliar world. You did not get married thinking it would end this way, but know that your situation is common, and stability returns with time. 

While the stress of divorce may be hard on you, it can be especially difficult on any children you may share with your soon-to-be ex-spouse, regardless of their ages. It is easy for children to get caught up in the middle of a divorce, but by following these tips, you can successfully move on to the next chapter of your lives together.

1. Do Not Argue with Your Ex Around Your Children

The divorce process is a volatile time, and arguments can spark in an instant if you let them. It is critical, however, that you do not let this occur within earshot or visual range of your children. This includes in-person and over the phone. By following this rule, you will save your children from unpleasant memories that can last a lifetime.

2. Do Not Engage in a Spending War

When couples split time with their children for the first time, each parent wants their children to enjoy every second they have with them. This can devolve into a battle to see who can buy them the most. While it is good to purchase games or toys they like that may now be at your ex’s home, do not go overboard. Your children simply need your support right now, not to be showered with gifts.

3. Take a Technology Break

Parents and children alike have become dependent on their electronic devices. While these can be essential and enjoyable items, they can also serve as an impediment to real conversation and interaction. Schedule some tech-free time when you are together, whether it is to enjoy the outdoors or just a good talk.

4. Try New Things Together

This is your chance to create new traditions for you and your children. Break the mold of doing the same activities you have always done. Try new parks, restaurants, festivals, anything you can think of. It will help keep your mind off the past and toward the future.

Contact a Cook County Family Law Attorney

If you need an experienced divorce attorney to help you navigate the divorce process, or if you need help with post-divorce modifications, the skilled lawyers at Wakenight and Associates, P.C. are here to help. For a free consultation with an Oak Park family lawyer, call us today at 708-480-9651.

Sources:

https://www.fatherly.com/love-money/how-to-be-a-great-divorced-dad/